Lemon and Life

When life gives you lemons

You are supposed to make lemonade. Now that’s a supposition.

Unfortunately everyone gets these lemons, asked or unasked for. It’s like they are in great demand in the Nature, I mean the metaphorical one.

Well, I too got, and keep getting. In my case it seems like there is a constant steady supply of lemons. I guess before I was created, Nature probably had an X-amount of lemons allocated, rather reserved, specifically for me. Well, that I guess can’t be undone. Too late. So all I got is to be creative in handling, or say, managing these lemon shots.

Ok then, what do I do when one is thrown/shot at me? They are generally not gracefully handed over. They just hit you. Bang and there you go.

Well, no point throwing back. It can hit someone else and that someone else’s response is not in my control. The person may choose to remain silent, or may opt to throw back the same lemon or orange or watermelon, no clue. The impact is directly proportional to the distance and the angle and the size of whatever the person selects to throw. I think that is not a pleasant scenario.

Next, I can choose to ignore, and then what? The lemon decays, from sour to bitter to forget-it situation. Again, not a pretty scenario. Sour is still better than bitter or the decayed version.

What more, make lemonade? Yeah, an interesting option—from plain sour to sour-n-sweet or sour-salt-n-sweet. The control of taste is up to you. And the control comes with learning. You may not get the right taste at the first time. You get to right my making a few mistakes (or may be many) and then never repeating those again. Combined with a lot patience and practice. Later, once you have mastered the skill, you can make the drink more interesting by adding other ingredients to suit your taste, mood or that of the people served (can be target audience if it is work related.)

Pie or Tart are some other options. But as of now, I am not into cooking (that much). Hence, lemonade and its variants suit me just fine.

As a kid I loved playing lemon and spoon. Interesting race it was. I use to win a lot then. Balance, vision and approach play a significant role if you want to win that race. Lemon can fall, spoon can slip, you may fall and get hurt, teeth may hurt (even break), tongue may feel odd, mouth may go numb and so on and so forth. Then I did not realize its significance in my future. I think Nature was training me in some sort. It was like, “Listen kid, you and lemon go a long way, so…get set go!” And I still play lemon and spoon mentally before deciding on finally making the lemonade. It helps in creative thinking or design thinking on why and how and what and where and who and when. I can now manage lemon and spoon and lemonade, all simultaneously.

Over the years, I have made Lemon my best friend. Good source of Vitamin C, enhances immunity and adds taste to my life!

So yeah, that’s the story of Me and Lemon.
Now, Me and Melon…I got to explore that section…someday in future I may write on Melon and Life!
No. Not played Melon and Spoon and I don’t plan to either.

Till then, take care. Enjoy lemonade. And Stay Safe.

BTW: In the image, it’s Lemon Tang. I told you. Design thinking!

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…Ashu Bolar
ashubolar@gmail.com

The Five Senses and Common Sense

We all know about the known Five Senses.

  1. Sight means Eyes
  2. Hear means Ears
  3. Smell means Nose
  4. Taste means Tongue
  5. Touch or Feel means Skin

And then very important sense is common sense—all combined are very essential for survival. Unfortunately, common sense is a rare occurrence, rather very uncommon these days, especially in the smart phone era. I am not sure if a smart phone is making its user smart or dumb so that it (as in the phone) appears smart. In my experience, most of the time it is the latter; because intelligent use of any smart phone can make an individual really smart.

I have come across many Smart People (SP) in the last few years, who are busy (as in super busy) using phones, posting stories, just for the sake of likes and comments, most of which are only for trading purpose—I liked your post so now you like mine, a silent barter in the 21st century. I wonder sometimes have we evolved or the entire evolution is just an illusion. The infrastructure and ambiance changes, but has the behavior? Not sure.

Case-1:

Sometime back, I had travelled with one such Smart Person to a very famous and well known tourist destination where it is required to travel by a ferry. Now, the SP was busy clicking images and making videos and posting them, and during low network connectivity phases, there was visible anxiety switched to bouts of mood elevation when the signal bars increased to three or four as now the posts can be posted instantly. They are supposed to be stories. In my understanding stories are either fiction or non-fiction. But either ways it cannot deny the core logic. And my logic says if a story is posted and if you call yourself intelligent then you will narrate a story that will communicate something sensible to the audience. Otherwise it is mere waste of time. And time is life. Means it is waste of life.

Now, the images and videos were posted with some catchy lines and icons and emojis. Relevant research was done on the Internet to choose places to visit and make the so called instant stories. But the SP did not know the name of either Wharf of both the districts (extremely famous names, movies are made in and on these locations, and a resident of the city has to know it types of general information), which was a source of dumbness that created a lot of confusion and irritation to me (I got tired answering nonsensical questions) as well as service providers (who were managing a crowd of hundreds of passengers during the Holiday Season) as the SP constantly mixed the wharf name with the ferry service provider brand names (there was similarity in the spellings).

To me, it is like knowing a country and not knowing the capital city or the vice versa. It appears as if you were sleeping all the years in your school. Not expected from an experienced working professional. And not acceptable when you happen to be a trained Communication Professional because any communication is to be posted or published only after a thorough research. A little ‘sensible research’ would have been helpful. The instant stories and posts will get likes, but in real life you are collecting nothing but dislikes with incomplete knowledge.

Case-2:

Similar incidence was with another SP acquaintance, who is also very active on the social media. The person had come to me to discuss an interview disaster. This SP was called for an interview on a Radio Channel for a marketing position. Now the interviewer among various questions asked about the RJs – Radio Jockeys are essential to every Radio Channel as they are one of the main sources of content generation/communication and consumer engagement—very important when it comes to marketing a media service. Now guess what the SP did? Named RJs of another radio channel and mentioned that “I am a big fan of that RJ.” And the interviewer replied, “Great, but that RJ works for the competitor channel.”—which meant ‘if we select you, then you will be working with us but promoting the opposite channel on our payroll.’ Again, a little ‘research’ would have saved the face.

Attending an Interview for the position of Marketing Manager without knowing what is to be marketed is beyond dumbness. I don’t even know what to call it. The SP felt it was bad luck. I think it was good luck as it was not me who was the interviewer or else I guess it may have been the last time the person ever attempted a marketing job interview.

Case-3:

Another instance, a corporate communication senior executive working in a Giant MNC chain (Service Sector, Hospitality Industry) posts a selfie on a Monday during working hours on Social Media with hashtags #MondayBlues #BadDay #Boss etc. etc. If I was in the HR department, then my reply to the post would have been #Fired #LeaveImmediately.

Service industry – Hospitality, Hospital, Tourism, Aviation, etc etc. are very active on Social Media to reach the masses and to proactively or actively enhance the services for the consumers. I cannot imagine someone working in any industry, especially in the service sector (many time employees are expected to wear uniform), posting such nonsense on any day with or without the formal dress code.

Some people think owning a smart phone is smartness. Well, above are three cases of the Smart Phone Smartness. I will call these cases as we do in medicine, and not examples, because to me such SP cases appear more like addiction and obsession that requires some intervention. Now, if you have more than one smart phone, then think, think hard.

Any media, social or otherwise is a source of information. It can be News Paper or TV or Radio or Digital Forum or Trade Event or Any Event—it can be any medium of communicating with the audience. However, the basic rule of Communication remains the same: Always Authentic Information. When I say ‘research’ I mean content based on verified facts no matter who writes it. It can be a journalist or an author or a blogger or a social media influencer or anyone, but factual information. Anything otherwise that is nonfactual is a rumour, which is not to be reacted on, unless you want to Laugh Out Really Loud or you want to be Laughed Out Loud.

One should know what to like/share and what not to, when to comment and when to stay quiet, when to be a part of the discussion forum and when to just be an audience, especially those in the marketing and communication professions associated with media. Once you are associated with an organization, you become the brand ambassador for that organization/brand. One comment/like/share/post can have very detrimental effect on the organization/brand (that probably can still be managed) and on your career (that can kill your career).

Coming back to the Five Senses combined with Common Sense:

  1. Sight (Eyes): There is difference between Seeing and Looking.
  2. Hear (Ears): Hearing is not same as Listening.
  3. Smell (Nose): All that smells good is not roses.
  4. Taste (Tongue): Too much sweet is not good for health – literally and figuratively.
  5. Touch/Feel (Skin): Is it a good one? Or a bad one? Make a wise call. One mistake can ruin a life.

I hope you get the message. So once again, the choice is yours: Either LOL or Get LOLed.

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– Ashu Bolar
ashubolar@gmail.com

typos…oh my my…

With the increase use of smart phones and touch screens, and constant WhatsApping anytime, anywhere, many times I come across several typing errors. Sometimes the sentences are so hilarous that you just laugh out loud (really loud!). Here are some good ones that I remember…

X: I got the job 🙂
Y: wow
Z: Congratssss! Good lick
That’s how fate is…licky you see. 😉 Probably, where luck doesn’t, there lick works 😉 Well on a keyboard, u and i are adjacent–so are g and f. Those clumsy fungers may next time type Good *uck…and if considered seriously by our friend X, I am not sure if he/she would be promoted or fired.

X: I got engaged!!
Y: OMG u r a licky gurl!!!
Oh well I assume that’s why she is engaged 😀

Ok fear…well some dears are actual fears…

Hell Asma,
Greetings from xyz!
(She meant hello…but sent me to hell with greetings :O )

Im cuming
Oh Yes Baby Yesss…

X: Werz u tday
Y: on suck leave
X: wow…no comments…we aren’t lucky to get such leaves!!!

Think you,
Sincerely,
XYZ
Ok now that send across wrong signals…thank or think…if not thank then why & what are you thinking?

Thanks for meeting today…it was great gun…
(Fun not gun)

There isn’t an end to these errors. Among friends it is acceptable. But with colleagues or may be family, I am not sure what the reaction would be.

And there is use of emojis which also can be construed as extremely confusing.

You can share some of your LOL typo moments.

Well, there will be many more typos…so dear readers…’to be continued…’ 🙂

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…Ashu Bolar

IVS

What if a person’s brain starts working like bowels? I know it sounds crazy but the analogy is important to explain what exactly IVS mean. 🙂

If brain works like bowels, then it would collect thoughts, some of which (may be the good ones) would get assimilated and got lost somewhere in the body, and the wasteful thoughts would accumulate and accumulate to a level when it would be practically impossible to hold and then there would be peristalsis leading to movements beyond control (like those of the bowels) causing it to flush the contents (thoughts here) out of the system through an opening, i.e., mouth—and the discharge is the verbal excreta.

No, No, it’s not you. But yes, this happens in people who suffer from Irritable Verbal Syndrome (IVS)—where one suffers from verbal constipation (with occasional flatulence) alternating with verbal diarrhoea (symptoms are similar as in IBS – Irritable Bowel Syndrome).

These people are not uncommon to find, or rather very common I must say. They can be colleagues, batchmates, neighbours, family members, friends or frenemies. They are either well informed or over confident or dumb but pretending to be wise. They are constantly in need for attention and are the ‘Me’ types….feel free to add to the list!

It is hard to believe if you haven’t come across one, and if not, then for sure you will meet one soon.

Question is ‘How do you deal with someone with IVS?’

Wash Wipe Sanitize or…(not sure if there is another option)? ;P

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Well, I have observed how people react. They…

  • Ignore
  • Tolerate
  • Silently smirk on their comments
  • Whisper about how irritating they are to the next person
  • Loose your cool & raise your BP
  • or Confront

I would stick to Wash Wipe Sanitize, in other words, confront…tell the person about IVS and give him/her a chance to get treated. The treatment is just a probability; the person may not change, but everyone deserves a chance no matter how offensive the condition is.

Right now I am in process of treating someone…relax…you will get your turn to treat (I am assuming you are IVS free)…till then Happy Reading! 😉

…Ashu Bolar

The Door, or the Dragon?

“Don’t go on her looks. She is less of a girl next door and more of a girl with the dragon tattoo.” – Harvey Specter’s advice to Mike Ross while discussing a legal case in Suits—to me after Grey’s Anatomy this is the next great show with an interesting and talented star cast; and in the end of every episode, you learn something.

Now, which one of these do you think you are? No, I didn’t mean Harvey or Mike :). I know to get their images out of your head is difficult, but here I meant are you the girl next door – cute, kind and honest types? Or the girl with the dragon tattoo (you would know what it means if you have read the book or seen the movie)?

Harvey Specter :)
Harvey Specter 🙂
Mike Ross ;)
Mike Ross 😉

Generally, the expectation is more for ‘the next door’ types. It isn’t very difficult to find them as well. However, a human mind is like a coin and every coin has two sides. At a time, only one side of the coin is visible. So, the ‘door’ and ‘dragon’ are both present in the same person. It’s just that in some the ‘door’ factor is more defined, and in the others, the ‘dragon’!

Well, my answer to this question is that to the likes of Harvey Specter and Mike Ross (intelligent, smart yet kind), I am the girl next door, but for the Louis Litts (evil, malicious and annoying)—it is the girl with more than one dragon tattoo! 😉

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I know the Specters and the Litts in my life. And till you figure out yours, let me enjoy the second season to come up with some more gyan! 😀

…Ashu Bolar

Show Up, Keep Up, Shut Up!

Recently I watched ‘Oz The Great and Powerful.’ Nice movie. Good acting. Great storyline. Beautiful visual effects and some cool animation. Of all the characters, my favourites were Finley, the Flying Monkey and the cute little China Girl.

Finley and the China Girl
Finley and the China Girl

Now why of all the amazing actors playing the magician (Oz) and the witches (Theodora, Evanora, Glinda) would someone like a Flying Monkey and the China Girl. Well, in life, most of us at our work place are either Finley – acting monkey with or without the love for bananas but carrying a huge workload, or the like the beautiful and fragile China Girl being surrounded by Carnival Magicians (not wizards) and Witches (Bad ones, not the kind and sweet Glinda types).

There is a scene in the movie where Oz (the magician and the so called Wizard) says: “Show Up, Keep Up, Shut Up!” – An advice to his new found assistant Finley in the magical Land of Oz. Now, this is exactly what every boZZ does. It is not even said aloud; it is very obvious and is to be understood.

As long as possible I do act like Finley.

Show Up – Oh yes, you have to. You do not have much of a choice in times of rising inflation.

Keep Up – In the hope of performance appraisal (Banana :D) you do your best.

Shut Up! – On many occasions.  Your innovation, but presented by your boZZs as their creation at the carnival. What do you do? Shut up. In the end of the year, you finally get the banana, but size does matter, doesn’t  it? You land up with a pocketful of change instead of a wallet full of cash. Again, what do you do? Shut up.

But how long can one shut up?

So these days, I ‘Show Up’, ‘Keep Up,’ ‘Shut Up’ (it is fun sometimes to be quiet and let other people do the talking), and at times,‘Throw Up’ (Ok, that is my idea of catharsis. Clever words at right time can be more powerful than any magical broom or emerald pendant :D).

On several occasions, I tried to be the China Girl as well; but unfortunately, in reality it is not easy to find good people let alone great people. You find yourself in midst of wicked people and in their company you will be broken with no one to fix you unlike the Oz. In the movie, Oz was still good at heart and so he was successful in driving the wicked witches out of the otherwise peaceful land. But in real life there isn’t anything like a peaceful happy place, and real time BOZZ is no where close to the great and powerful Oz.

Now, you can choose to be the wicked and vengeful witch, Theodora, or the evil and manipulative witch, Evanora. But in the long run, it does not serve the purpose and you will be driven out of the place you wish to rule at some point in your life. Glinda—the good witch—her character is interesting. But I do not have the magic wand, and without the wand, even Glinda was on the verge of disappearing forever. Therefore, until I find the wand, I am the Happy Flying Talking and Spewing Finley! 🙂

…Ashu Bolar

Frenemy – Oh Lord! Save Me From This Species!

You know who is your best friend. You also know who your enemy is (most of the time).  But to identify your frenemy is not that easy. They are there in your difficult times; right besides you (even though they are responsible for this difficult situation in first place.)

They support you to do the most daring thing in life (as they know that this can ruin your image). They are there everywhere and at every stage of your life. If one goes, it is replaced by the other. You can not escape them. You just can’t.

So, what can you do?

Pray to Lord. (As I just did.)

Be Vigilant. (Play with their games and you will learn what to be careful of.)

Just learn to IGNORE. (Hmmm, this can be difficult. But with time you will. Listen…smile…but do what you feel is right.)

My first encounter with a frenemy was during my junior college days. (I got lucky not to have them in my school days or even if I had then I never realised.) She was or rather is suppose to be one of my close friends. I let her think that because I know I am not in anyway harming her. But I know she is harmful so I take precautions. There was always problem with her when I scored more in tests. I could come to know from the expressions and body language.

Problem Was: Jealousy – Yes, that’s why I struck her off my best friend list.

Lesson Learnt: Your friend would be happy on your success. And if it is the other way round, it means that person is not your friend.

Now next,

In medical college, extremely competitive students. So you are bound to get in touch with this species. They circulate wrong questions paper one day before the exam saying, “They are important; just study these and you will pass.” Not for once in five years any of their questions were asked, not even in Viva forget written exam.

Problem Was: Competition

Lesson Learnt: Note down the questions, continue with what you are studying and skim through the said questions and answers just an hour before the exam. That’s it!

Third destination: Post Grad College.

Ok competition is higher now, not just for scores but also for jobs. Very difficult environment. When it comes to getting job, even your closest and dear classmate leaves your side. In the group work you work hard, very hard. Your group projects and presentations are always best because not all your team members but you work hard. Scores are awesome. But when in the entire batch you, despite being best with A+++ grades, are the one jobless in the end of campus placement, your dear group members who are now employees in some big organizations tell, “Here’s my email id. Please forward your CV. There is a vacancy. We will try for sure.” You sincerely forward your resume but nothing happens as your profile is just sitting or rather sleeping in their emails.

Problem Was: Competition, Jealousy and Insecurity

Lesson Learnt: Work hard. Revise your basics. Keep giving interviews. Never lose hope. Don’t just rely on campus placement. Job portals/consultancies can be a big help. And in the end when you get job and are successful, think twice before you accept their friend request.

Ok, now, at Workplace….

This is the worst one. Usually if you are an efficient in your work, then work is not difficult but dealing with people around you is a challenge. You come across people from varied backgrounds, different qualifications, age…therefore, the scenario is difficult to adapt at first. If you don’t handle these frenemies with care, things can get messy because you have to come next day to work and face the same people. If intolerable, then you may change a job, but everywhere you will find them. So no point running away. Face them.

Some frenemy behaviours at work place…

Your colleague, one designation higher, a good friend and you eat lunch together. So she says with a broad smile, “Please place the order.” You do that. Then continues, “Could you please pay the bill as I don’t have change. I will give you later.” You do as there is no other way. This becomes a routine. Food is relished but the money is forgotten.  This behaviour is not just restricted to lunches but even when you shop together. The SLY CAT attitude.

My Reaction: Have good breakfast. Skip lunch. And no more shopping. 😛

Your best friend had some problems, is in need of a job. You recommend her to your boss. Gets selected and then the torment begins. The person is no more your friend but BEST ENEMY – backbites, tries to ruin your image, resorts to groupism, steals your other office friends, tries every minute to be the centre of attention and attraction.

My Reaction: Go to hell. Do the assigned work well because good work speaks volumes. :O

Your reporting team lead is good. Excellent at work. But comes with many behavioural issues – talks a lot, eats a lot and is extremely NOSY. Now, this person wants you be her pet alone. So warns you (beware, its manipulation) about every other person in office including your own team members.

My Reaction: Listen to her. But be good with everyone as in an organization it is always ‘WE’ that works never an ‘I’. 🙂

Another colleague, BABY DOLL…no that’s not her name, I call her so. When I first saw her, she was huge and tomboyish. Now looking at me 🙂 she has taken several fashion tips and turned into a baby doll whose ultimate aim is to get male attention. A good looking male employee around you is highly disliked by Baby Doll. She will go on diet, but encourage you to eat so that you look fat and not-so-happening. Oh those flirty eyes, that baby smile, those fringes changing direction every two minutes, that seductive voice, the sheer tops, the visible lingerie, those love bites on display, those well exposed tanned legs pictures flashed across….and the list just goes on. Baby Doll tries to overshadow you everywhere and all the time.

My Reaction: The competition is in Baby Doll’s Delusional Little Head and not mine. So chillax, and let her gain whatever attraction she thinks she can. 😉

Another colleague, JENNY…again that’s not the name but on Wikipedia I read that female donkeys are also known as jenny. Therefore the name. Jenny knows well that she does not know anything so very politely gets work done by other members of the team.

My Reaction: Some people are dumb. You can’t do much especially when they accept it. They can be very entertaining though. So help them whenever possible and at other times laugh out loud at their dumb remarks. 😀

LIAR LIAR…they are annoying…always lying about anything, everything and nothing. Now, this Liar Liar comes late then lies, leaves early then lies, bunks due to bad hangover but lies, on chat with friends but says office work, chats with boyfriend/girlfriend says it is sister/friend. Too many lies that loses track of the original lie, and therefore, lies again.

My Reaction: Your life is none of my business. So do whatever you feel right. And I know you are Liar Liar, so it’s ok as I don’t believe you anyways. ;P

PEEPING TOM…their entire focus is on your screen (monitor, mobile, tablet – just name it) to keep a track of what you are doing, are you on chat with anyone, whom did you send an email to, etc. Now, they may act like Peeping Toms because they are so by default or may be because someone has asked them to behave that way…whatever the reason it just disgusts you.

My Reaction: Ignore and be cautious. Peeping Toms do go do washrooms and for lunches – the time when you can do something that is important. 🙂

Ok now, you also get a lot, who are interested in all your conversations – with a colleague next to you, on phone – professional or personal.  These EAVESDROPPERS will stop all their work just to listen what you are talking and with whom. It’s gross.

My Reaction: Be vigilant. Any important conversation can wait till they are not around, or can be done in some other place or via messaging app. 🙂

YOUR PLACE, MY PLACE…ok this personality is always on phone talking with his girlfriend (actually, it is plural, but he pretends as if he is a dedicated sincere boyfriend) constantly busy discussing whose place is it going to be tonight. It is fine dating, but besides deciding places, you should even work. But no, they don’t move their a**** and damn they expect you to complete all their work.

My Reaction: Gave sufficient time to improve. When no improvement noticed, spoke to boss, and from there on the boss took care of things.

And many more such characters you will come across. I remember the prominent ones and I hope to add to the list soon.

You can not change a person unless the person wants to change himself or herself. But you can keep your karmas right. I believe in karmas—good or bad—it will come back to you. And if you don’t believe in karmas then just memorize the proverb we all were taught in our schools:

As you sow so shall you reap. (And why shouldn’t you? :))

…Ashu Bolar

The F-Book

What were you thinking friend? I meant was facebook. 🙂

Today is the Internet Era where having a facebook profile is a must (If you don’t have one then you get an OMG reaction) and checking facebook profile at least twice a day is mandatory. There are many other social networking sites; however, facebook still remains one of the most popular amongst all.

There was a time when people kept dairies penning their everyday thoughts. However, this act is now replaced with status updates – some short, some long; sometimes once a day, sometimes several times in a day. With fancy mobile phones, accessing social networking sites has become very easy. I never had a diary, but yes, I do have a facebook account. I am not keen on posting updates but when it comes to decorating profile, I must say I am good at it.

Decorative enough, right? 🙂

Even I check my account at least twice a day. Every time I log in, the images and posts on my home page fill me with mixed emotions.

A Friend’s Wedding Album – likes, congratulations!

Honeymoon Pics – likes on couple and more likes on the destination (next on travel list)

Friend’s Kids Birthday Pics – wishes and likes

Get Together Pics – likes (longing for one)

Witty Posts – likes and laughs 😀

Horoscope Update – some hope

Love Horoscope – very little hope

Gloomy Remarks (as in break up related) – sad (but happy on my single status :))

Stupid Comment – wonder why this person is on my list??? :-/

Repeated Stupider Remarks – block the person  😉

Sale – smile does not leave my face till I shop shop shop and literally run out of cash!

Friend Request from a Long Lost School Friend (and a good one) – very happy! 😀

Friend Requests from Strangers – ignore

Someone Poking – I feel like poking in real sense

Game Requests – ignore

Company Promotional Update – likes likes as no other choice

Right Hand Side Ads – some very good ones

Photo Tagging – irritated (I am not quite fond of that) x(

Videos – some good, some annoying

Vacation Snaps – likes (God knows when I will go for one!)

And emotions keep swinging from like to dislike, happy to sad, irritation to anger, and of course, the vice versa.

For some, or rather many, this book is friendly, fabulous, fashionable, fanciful, flirty, funny, free spirited, full of life— in short, Fantabulous Book!

But for few it is fake, foul, flimsy, forbidden, futile, false, frustrating, freaky—means WTF book?

As for me, most of the times, reading this book makes me happy for the fact that I have so many friends, and that they are happy in their lives. We may not be conversing or chatting everyday, we might have not met for years now, but we are still connected, no matter which corner of the globe we reside.

And on friendship day with so many beautiful messages, again my emotions are swinging—a smile, a tear—and I am glad that there are friends who care.

Wishing all my friends a Happy Friendship’s Day and hoping to find more friends in the future on my Fav Book, my Facebook!

…Ashu Bolar

Love Is Blind, Is It?

Bull Shit! How can love be blind? When in love, how could one forget applying minds and cease being logical? Not possible. Yes, it’s impossible.

Then one fine day…you meet that someone and something happens…DHAK DHAK…your heart beats faster…you start dreaming…glowing…humming…smiling for no reason…and you finally fall in love…now heart gets energetic…sings lullaby…LAL LALLA LALA LALA LAL LAL LA…there your brain starts feeling drowsy…exchange of flowers….romantic messages…candle light dinners….by now your brain is already asleep…sweet dreams…what will life be with us together…long talks….long walks…long drives…Life Is Beautiful!

You continue dreaming…start accepting flaws…adjusting…changing yourself… ignoring signals…thinking this is my world and can’t let it go off my hands…compromising…still dreaming…

And then on one another fine day…Nature interrupts…your partially dormant brain senses something’s wrong…so you decide to check…but how?…not that difficult in this Google Era…that one scrap says it all…your dream love has left you for someone else…BOOM…all those dreams shattered…now your brain is wide awake…heart just beats, and beats faster, but not thinks…brain overloaded with thoughts…too many thoughts…many voices…‘Get over it’…‘It’s just a bad phase’…‘You will survive’…and after many sessions of red eyes and sleepless nights…you draw all your strength to put a final full stop to this dream.

TRING TRING TRING…the alarm rings… and you open your eyes to yet another fine day…now that you have regained your eyesight, you start seeing things clearly…restart being logical…and your logical thinking says The Fact Love Is Blind, Is Not Bull Shit!…But Horse Shit!! Infact, Deep Shit!!!

However, after profound analysis and evaluation, and several brainwashing sessions by your dear friends, you come to a conclusion that nightmares are bad, but they still are dreams…there’s no end to dreams…and if you want to dream then you should also have the strength to overcome a nightmare… and yes, amidst all the dreams, there are some real good dreams that do turn into everlasting cherishable memories.

So dear friends, you never know when cupid strikes again…but this time cupid comes with two warnings – ‘Beware Of Nightmares’ & ‘Heart’s For Beating And Brain’s For Thinking—So Be It!’ Atleast these will save you from temporary blindness.

Whether or not cupid strikes today…keep dreaming…keep smiling…keep loving…because Life Is Very Very Very Beautiful!

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!

…Ashu Bolar