Tag Archives: Love

What Does It Mean To Truly Love Another?

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…John Tyree questions himself in the prologue of Dear John by Nicholas Sparks. It is the fourth novel of the same author I have just finished reading.

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Three years back my colleague, who is also fond of reading fiction, told me that one of the must-reads from Nicholas Sparks collection is Dear John. I brought the book two years back, but never read it until last week.

The book opens with a prologue where the protagonist, John Tyree, asks himself what it means to truly love someone and even defines the probable answer to this question—an answer which he thought was apt six years back but is meaningless by the time he summarizes his life, his love.

In the epilogue, John Tyree once again thinks about the question – what does true love really mean? This time he has understood that true love means to care for another person’s happiness more that your own, no matter how painful the choices you face might be. This sounds difficult, but isn’t if you are truly in love. However, what is difficult or rather impossible is to console the shattered heart that still stubbornly questions on the decisions made, that still has hopes—unwavering, undying hopes.

The novel reminded me of yet another beautiful novel Brida by Paulo Coelho, where the protagonist is in search of the true soulmate. For Brida, the answer came through a genuine search, but for John, it was mere destiny.

Whether in love or not, you must read Dear John. And do not forget to re-read the prologue once you finish reading the epilogue.

…Ashu Bolar

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Love Is Blind, Is It?

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Bull Shit! How can love be blind? When in love, how could one forget applying minds and cease being logical? Not possible. Yes, it’s impossible.

Then one fine day…you meet that someone and something happens…DHAK DHAK…your heart beats faster…you start dreaming…glowing…humming…smiling for no reason…and you finally fall in love…now heart gets energetic…sings lullaby…LAL LALLA LALA LALA LAL LAL LA…there your brain starts feeling drowsy…exchange of flowers….romantic messages…candle light dinners….by now your brain is already asleep…sweet dreams…what will life be with us together…long talks….long walks…long drives…Life Is Beautiful!

You continue dreaming…start accepting flaws…adjusting…changing yourself… ignoring signals…thinking this is my world and can’t let it go off my hands…compromising…still dreaming…

And then on one another fine day…Nature interrupts…your partially dormant brain senses something’s wrong…so you decide to check…but how?…not that difficult in this Google Era…that one scrap says it all…your dream love has left you for someone else…BOOM…all those dreams shattered…now your brain is wide awake…heart just beats, and beats faster, but not thinks…brain overloaded with thoughts…too many thoughts…many voices…‘Get over it’…‘It’s just a bad phase’…‘You will survive’…and after many sessions of red eyes and sleepless nights…you draw all your strength to put a final full stop to this dream.

TRING TRING TRING…the alarm rings… and you open your eyes to yet another fine day…now that you have regained your eyesight, you start seeing things clearly…restart being logical…and your logical thinking says The Fact Love Is Blind, Is Not Bull Shit!…But Horse Shit!! Infact, Deep Shit!!!

However, after profound analysis and evaluation, and several brainwashing sessions by your dear friends, you come to a conclusion that nightmares are bad, but they still are dreams…there’s no end to dreams…and if you want to dream then you should also have the strength to overcome a nightmare… and yes, amidst all the dreams, there are some real good dreams that do turn into everlasting cherishable memories.

So dear friends, you never know when cupid strikes again…but this time cupid comes with two warnings – ‘Beware Of Nightmares’ & ‘Heart’s For Beating And Brain’s For Thinking—So Be It!’ Atleast these will save you from temporary blindness.

Whether or not cupid strikes today…keep dreaming…keep smiling…keep loving…because Life Is Very Very Very Beautiful!

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!

…Ashu Bolar