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Time+Love+Death=Collateral Beauty —> Life

Time + Love + Death = Collateral Beauty —> Life

Yeah, the word ‘death’ in the above equation is scary. But in the movie, Collateral Beauty, death personified by Helen Mirren, well, does not look scary at all and looks pretty realistic. And Death does not necessarily mean someone is dying. It could be a habit dying, it could be death of an ever regretting past, it could be…moving on finally, yes along with time and love, which makes you realize and feel the Collateral Beauty.

Collateral Beauty is a beautiful movie, a different concept supported by an amazing cast.

A story of an Ad man – Howard (Will Smith) – as a successful advertising agency founder along with friends – Whit (Edward Norton), Simon (Michael Pena) and Claire (Kate Winslet) until a few years later, after death of his six year old kid, turns into a recluse indulged in domino art, now not being a part of the agency and at the same time refusing to merge the agency with Omnicom—a strategic move which can secure the agency and its employees. Whit-Simon-Claire are struggling to maintain big clients, while negotiating terms and time with Omnicom deal to finalize, which is impossible without Howard’s signatures.

So how to you do it – by hiring a spy to follow Howard and notice an abnormal behavior. Mental sanctity is essential to sign any legal document, and if one looses it, then one is not eligible to vote or finalize a deal. Whit-Simon-Claire plan to prove the latter so as to finalize the deal. And to their luck, the spy finds three of the Howard letters addressed to Time, Love and Death – the three elements he believed were essence of life and of any successful promotional activity.

Whit – divorced due to infidelity and now struggling to prove a good father to his daughter, who hates him – now stays with his mother suffering from Alzheimer’s comes up with an idea while having a chat with his mom in one of her relapse episodes.

The idea is to personify Time-Love-Death through actors and make each of them talk with Howard.

Time: A young energetic man (Jacob Latimore) guided by Claire, who herself is struggling with time and her ticking biological clock.

Love – A beautiful young woman (Keira Knightley) directed by Whit, whose daughter refuses to meet him at all, while he struggles to express his love for her.

Death – A gracefully ageing lady (Helen Mirren) led by Simon, who has a few more days left before he is consumed by malignancy, something which no one besides him knows, not even his wife.

Each of the character, in first round, meets with Howard. Howard listens but still no major change visible in his behavior. The next plan is to record Howard’s interaction with the seemingly invisible Time-Love-Death and demonstrate his abnormal behaviour to the board to make the deal happen.

In this duration Howard starts visiting the group where parents who have lost their children meet to grieve and to cope up with the loss—so does Madeleine (Naomie Harris) – later revealed as Mrs. Inlet—who tries her best to comfort yet support Howard in his grief.

Finally the board meeting day arrives with no visible change in Howard’s behavior. The video is shown, Howard is questioned, Whit-Simon-Claire take the responsibility of their acts, ask for forgiveness for their behavior; but Howards is not upset with them, he signs the papers and calls it the right choice, while tells each one of them that he knows what is going on in their lives and forgives them.

Whit-Simon-Claire all the while think they are guiding the three actors, while in reality Time-Love-Death – all three where guiding them to make the right choice in life, and help them notice the Collateral Beauty in their lives. How? For that you will have to watch the movie.

Movie is slow, but the concept is unique. Each one of us, some time in our lives, have lost someone, something. They say ‘Whatever happens, happens for good.’ And that ‘good’ is the ‘Collateral Beauty.’ We may have experienced it, but we either miss it or refuse to acknowledge it, and thus, many a times never get the so called closure and the past keeps haunting us and has a domino effect in life when the present becomes a curse, and the future, a blurred vision. In life everything is a lesson. Learn it and move on. Easier said than done. But Life moves on, never stops, and so should each one of us. Time-Love-Death, none ever to be taken for granted because together they make us what we are today.

My favourite dialogues (as far as I can remember, not an exact word to word narration)…

 “We’re here to connect. Love, time, death. Now these three things connect every single human being on earth. We long for love, we wish we had more time, and we fear death.”

“…you are taking from them a chance to say good bye.”

“I’m time. I’m a gift, and you’re wasting it.”

“A child does not have to come from you, but go through you.”

“Love became me.”

“I’m love. I’m the fabric of life. Don’t try and live without me.”

“Love, I was there in her laugh, but I’m also here now in your pain.”

“Just be sure to notice the Collateral Beauty.”


Image Source: https://www.facebook.com/CollateralBeauty/

…Ashu Bolar








Move It! Lose It! Prove It!

“In the game of mercy when one kid cries out, the other one listens and the pain stops. Don’t you wish it was that easy now? It’s not a game anymore and we’re not kids.  You can cry mercy all you want, but nobody is listening. It’s just you screaming into a void.”

– Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy; S10:E3

How many times do you find yourself screaming into the void? Sometimes more than once in a day and sometimes more than you can count in a week. It happens to all of us. I keep writing and saying Life is Beautiful. It is, but as the adage goes ‘Life is not a bed of roses’. You do get roses, but roses are never without thorns. Some days are good or perfect as we generally call it. And some are plain bad hair days. So much so that you cry mercy—a cry rarely heard, often ignored.

It can be personal or professional, and sometimes both. But then what do you do?

Life does not come with a pause, rewind or forward button. It just goes on, non-stop, till your final breath.

“What if your focus splits? Are you left with nothing at all? Maybe you just need to find a different path. What if you can’t give a hundred percent? Maybe you just need to go back to the beginning and start all over again.

– Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy; S10:E5

Yes, may be you need to go back to the beginning, unwind, and start all over again. As the Fifth Episode of Grey’s Anatomy Season 10 ends, Callie Torres’ attitude and Little Jackie’s beautiful song ‘Lose It’ says it all…

Exercise your right to enjoy life, you don’t need an invitation.

To let loose and be free, no need to RSVP.

Make your way to the party, no need for navigation.

Just fire your smile, exercise your right to have fun.

Go outta your mind, get into the music…

Colour outside the lines, I want you to move it…grove it…show me how you lose it…

Move it…grove it…show me how you lose it…

Move it…grove it…show me how you lose it…

What is the art of letting go, this is your moment, it’s your commencement.

C’mon stand up, all your hands up, being in present.

You can’t occupy two places at the same time; leave the past behind, a simple change of mind.

Fire your smile, if you’re ready, get set for a good time.

Go outta your mind, get into the music…

Colour outside the lines, I want you to move it…grove it…show me how you Lose it…

Move it…grove it…show me how you lose it…

Move it…grove it…show me how you lose it…

Exercise your right to enjoy life, you don’t need no invitation.

So let loose and be free, no need to RSVP.

Go outta your mind, get into the music…

Colour outside the lines, I want you to move it…grove it…show me how you lose it…

Move it…grove it…show me how you lose it…

Move it…grove it…show me how you lose it…

Lose it
Screen Shot From S10:E5 Grey’s Anatomy

Let’s get into the music. Let’s colour outside the lines. Let’s Move it..Grove it…Lose it…Prove it! 🙂

…Ashu Bolar

The Decades Of Life

Well, if you are thinking in terms of autobiography after reading the title, then good news is that this is not my autobiography. But yes, this could be a skeleton to it, which if required, I may write some day in future.

I thought of writing on the metamorphosis we all undergo right from being an infant to toddler to kid to teenager to young adult, adult….till now I can write only till this age as I am biologically eligible to comment only till the third decade of life. So let’s begin our decade journey…

The first decade of any ones life is good.  This decade we are Rolly Polly Chubby Cheeks! Life then was something like this…

Teeth – Erupting, falling and then re-erupting.

Skin – Oh! Those lovely chubby cheeks!

Hair – As per your parents’ wishes and school norms.

Weight – Gaining is a blessing and if not then mothers drive the paediatricians crazy.

Girls/Boys – “I am a girl and my younger brother is a boy.”

Dating – “What is that mom?”

Marriage – “My mom’s and dad’s wedding anniversary. “

Kids – “I am a kid and all my friends are kids.”

Career – “Haaaaaaaaaaan??????”

Fights – All the time fighting with brothers and sisters, could be kids at nursery, school or tuitions…But all are easily forgotten.

Friends – “Meena, Teena, Naina, Pinky, Chinky, Twinkle, Appy, Dolly, Raju, Appu, Dabbu………and Chicku.”

Drinks – Milk, milk and more milk…sometimes plain, sometimes in flavours…but there is no way out of it.

TV – “Pogo and Cartoon Network. I like Mr. Bean and Tom & Jerry and Mickey Mouse and Popeye and Woody Wood Pecker, Tintin and…” the list is endless.

Sleep – As much as you want…if you don’t then it is a problem.

Money – “Dad pays all the bills.”

Life – “The general or universal condition of human existence.” – A definition thought in Science class.

Nice, very nice…I miss these days…The only days of life when you can actually relax. Let’s move to the second one. This age is of major transformation; the decade of blooming. From a kid, now you are on your way to be a teenager and then step up towards adulthood. This decade is full of vigour, energy along with lots and lots of confusion and queries. This the decade of Friends-Fondling-Fooling Around-Fun!

Teeth – “Oh Lord! This wisdom tooth…pain is bad but ok I will get wisdom.”

Skin – Every acne drives you crazy.

Hair – Changes after every new hit movie released…short, long, curled, straight and in various colours (like red and blue also)… all depends on current fashion.

Weight – Initially hunger prangs, then there are hunger prangs but image consciousness arises and so there comes the word dieting which all mothers hate though they are busy doing the same.

Girls/Boys – Posters of all actors on walls, starts dreaming about that miss or mister perfect and for some the hunt begins and others are busy experimenting and enjoying different flavours.

Dating – A very juicy topic…can talk hours together on it…baseless discussions but that time those are the only conversations one can think of…deciding on appropriate dresses, make up , cologne, accessories and may the right palace – disc, restaurant, movie, mall…all this hard work for the date which you may later not even remember.

Marriage – “After I complete my education”, “After I am settled in life”, “Marriage…why talk about it now?”

Kids – “I am no more a kid pleaseeeeeeeeee!”

Career – Hmmmm…I want to be a doctor, no may be a pilot or may be a lawyer, no no engineer would be right…lot of confusion but some are sure of what they want to be or some are made to be sure on they will be by their parents.

Fights – Hmmm…in competition, in jealously, in foolishness, in fun…some are forgotten some are not.

Friends – Can name few to many and many many more!

Drinks – Mom no milk please – tea or coffee or cola….milk but this time skimmed (Could be other drinks also, which of course you don’t ask your mom to serve!)

TV – Music channels, Pop songs, DJ music and the likes or some Daily Soap Operas with your mom (it is okay but most of times are exaggerated), Sports (probably betting on some team), Film Awards and Movies (hmmm…all and each one, specially dying to see what is there in the ones rated ‘A’).

Sleep – Who sleeps when you are either busy preparing for your exams or entrance tests or could be busy reading a Mills and Boons masked under your study material?

Money – “Wish dad increases my pocket money a little”, “I wish mom gets generous this month too and add to my savings”, “Will have to hunt for a part time job to take care of my expenses.”

Life – My friends and fun!

Okay! Now 21 onwards one is legally adult, and there the story of this decade begins. The decade of ‘Fight Flab. Be Fit!’

Teeth – “Damn! When are these wisdom teeth going to finally erupt?”

Skin – Clean ups, facials, massages…all care is taken that you can afford to make yourself and/or your beloved happy.

Hair – One grey hair is a reason enough to bother you…Every attempt is made to hide it.

Weight – “Gaining? Have I gained weight? Am I looking fat? Goodness I have to hit gym now!”(Every inch bothers you and makes you go frenzy. Every effort is put in to fight the baby flab.)

Girls/Boys – “I am seeing someone”, “I am engaged”, “I am married”…but there are still some who are still single and ready to mingle.

Dating – “With my boyfriend”, “With my fiancée”, “With my husband”, “I just had a break up so with no one for me as of now”, but for some “I am still searching not succeeded yet in getting that right date.”

Marriage – “I hoping for one”, “I am planning for one”, “I recently got married”, “I am still dreaming about it”, “My marriage decision was wrong, may file for a divorce soon”, “I am happy with my relation…may get married someday”, and for some “I am wondering if virginity is bliss or curse???”

Kids – “Oh! We are expecting one!”, “We may plan for one”, “Will think about it”, “We are taking treatment to get one”, “We are deciding on a second one”, “There is still time for one. Let us enjoy a little more”, “Will think about it after I get married”…

Career – “I am a doctor”, “I am a designer”, “I am a teacher”, “I am still studying”, “I have finished my education and hunting for job now”, “I was lucky…I cleared the interview and will soon be working with an MNC”, “I am tired hunting for job…looks as if I will never get one”, “I am joining my dad’s business”, “I got a promotion”,  “I am still hunting for that dream job”,  “I am a homemaker”…and many such varied comments from many of us.

Fights – All the time with bosses or spouses!

Friends –Many on social networking friend list but only a few, whom you share your thoughts and sentiments with.

Drinks – “Tea for me, coffee for my husband, milk for my little one”…or could be vodka, rum, wine, beer or gin? Or may be “I am addicted to one” or “I am a teetotaler”…all depends on your will power more than taste!

TV – Movies could be action or thriller or romantic or sports or again Pogo and Cartoon Network but with your kids and then see recaps of your missed soap operas.

Sleep – “Sleep! Don’t remember when I last had a peaceful one?” “I wish I could sleep a little longer but then I got to travel/study/complete the office work carried home”, “My little kids don’t let me sleep”, “Partying hard so I barely sleep”…

Money – First struggle but then there is plenty of it to enjoy cappuccino in a posh café anytime you want, enough to plan an yearly trip for yourself, enough to buy expensive presents for your dear ones, enough to pay all your bills, enough to leave life independently or could be enough to start a family!

Life – For some “My Work”, for others “My Family”, and for few “My Work and My Family”.

I would have loved to write more but now that my eligibility is constrained, therefore, I need to stop on the third decade. I hope you enjoyed reading this and related some of it at least to your life. If, by God’s will I live longer, then I will keep updating this post on further decades of life…my life…our lives!



…Ashu Bolar