Hmmm…it takes a while to understand this statement. My first reaction to it was, ‘How can someone lose a thing that he never had?’ But I thought and thought more on this to realize how very true this statement has been on many occasions of my life. Yes, I had lost many things in my life which I never had.
This ‘Something’ could be anything – a person, a pet or just an object. But the loss hurts. Your heart bleeds, eyes cry, soul shivers… the loss leaves you shattered.
Friends, are you still thinking that how it is possible? Well then, go through these possible examples.
Your neighbour must be having a poochie to which you are much attached. You spent your spare time playing, cuddling, walking and even talking to this animal – an animal which is also your friend. It is a part of your life. But one day your neighbour decides to relocate and there goes this poochie along with him. You are hurt, you feel sad, you get upset and you may even cry.
See…you lost something which you never had!
You have a friend who is very smart, dashing, caring, lovable, charming…an ideal marriage material. Your eyes don’t hurt when you admire this special person without blinking. Anything your friend talks is music to your ears. You realize it is more than friendship. You are in love with your friend. This friend reciprocates to all your gestures that you don’t feel the need to express your way of thinking. But one day, your friend comes with a broad smile, declares about the engagement and hands over to you a wedding card which ofcourse does not have your name printed next to your beloved friend’s name. You are lost. Your heart sinks. You are angry. You curse fate.
Look …you lost something which you never had!
Many a times we want things our way. We try to have power over things which are far beyond our control by just playing the assumption game. You must have never thought that your neighbour would relocate but that was an assumption. You thought your friend loved you the way you did but again you assumed. Such assumptions will give you ephemeral happiness but the instant you realize the fact – that’s the time when it hurts. But we should remember that every connection (be it an association or a relation) teaches a silent lesson and leaves an impression. It is upto us to learn this lesson and remember this impression.
This statement was a message on my friend’s facebook status bar. But it made me think and think on all and everything that I have lost to the game of assumptions. Yes, at times even my heart bled, eyes cried, soul shivered…even I was shattered but to realize that it is another silent lesson learnt.
There are times when we would want to stay in that virtual world, but we should never forget to return to the real world on time. And yes, next time I will surely try not to lose anything which I never had! Hope you all will also do the same!