Window Shopping!!!!! :)


What does ‘Window Shopping’ remind you of? Walking on lane and looking through the huge glass windows of big branded stores or malls and admiring their new season collections…Right?


But I mean it in a different way here. This was a termed coined by my previous head of the department (HOD) and a very good friend. You will be surprised and laugh your heart out when you read this conversation…


HOD: “So, Asma how was your weekend?”


ME: Good…as every weekend is…wake up at noon…no breakfast but a direct lunch…watch F.R.I.E.N.D.S on Zee café…sleep again…wake up at 6 in evening…enjoy tea with biscuits…do the laundry…listen to mom’s taunts on the pending dusting of my room (which still is pending)…watch some movie…dinner time…again TV…then GOOD NIGHT!


HOD: Ok! Good! Mine was interesting! (Says with a broad smile on her face)


ME: What was interesting? Saw some new movie?


HOD: Noooo! It was my window shopping! (Again with that broad smile)


For a moment I thought she had gone to some mall and had fun doing window shopping but the expression on her face bespoke some other tale to which my reply was a frown filled face and she started laughing.


HOD: Arey Asma! My Window Shopping!


ME: I still didn’t get you. (The frown remains in the same position on my forehead) 


HOD: I mean that yesterday some guy’s parents had come to meet me and my family. My family presented me in front of them like a decked up walking talking show piece who is assumed and presumed to be Miss Perfect in every aspect of her life. So…My Window Shopping!


ME: Hahahaha…hahaha…hahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I could not stop laughing at her sarcastic but a very true comment, which at times is not as hilarious as mentioned above.


All girls, women, mothers and many others (which includes men also) reading this piece may have been a part of such a window shopping sometime in their lives. There is immense pressure from the society on girl’s parents. It sometimes appears as if she is daughter of the society and not of her parents.


“Oh Lord! Twenty seven and yet not engaged? Don’t you want your daughter to get married?”

(Yes aunty! Please give that marriage bureau’s number, which after two years of gruesome hunting, helped you in finding the most apt son-in-law)


“Our daughter got married at the age of 22…just after her graduation. Are you not worried on your daughter getting older?”

(I still have my teeth in mouth and my hair is yet to grey…And if you wouldn’t have gotten your daughter married then you would have never known whom she ran away with as her list was a long one!!!!!)



“If you don’t get girls married at the right age then you will have to hunt for a bridegroom who could be a widower or may be a divorcee with two-three kids.”

(For Heaven’s sake! To marry off at the age of 19 to a guy whom your daughter does not like and then after having two kids she suddenly decides to elope with her former lover ….makes sense to you my beloved aunty. Hat’s off to your daughter!!! But please, I am not in for this.)


“All my daughters got married very young. By twenty three years of age, they had two kids.”

(Old age is doing tricks on you uncle! Check their birth certificates…you will come to know their right age!)


…And many such comments. Sometimes you laugh at them but sometimes they are way too hurting. Such remarks can raise your mother’s BP…she can even get an angina…and get hospitalized. All thanks to these narrow minded stock of the society.


It is not that I am against arranged marriages but sometimes the surrounding public makes this process much agonizing. Marriage is a personal choice. A person – be it a girl or a boy – should decide herself/himself when to settle down and have a family. One cannot just tie-up two strangers into wedlock. With the increasing rates of divorces, it is quite conspicuous that one decision in haste scars your life – the impact of which will follow all through out your life. Why make such a mistake when you have all reasons to stop it?


But then it is difficult for one person to bring revolution. And it is impossible when it comes to changing the minds of your mothers. There are always those tear filled eyes to emotionally blackmail you. 😦


Sometimes you do it for fun…Sometimes in anger…But yes, you ultimately deck up and serve tea, farsans and sweets and speak in your sweetest tone though you despise it from the core of your heart. You prepare for this ‘Window Shopping’ more than you must have done for the interview you gave in that remarkable MNC.


In this generation it does not appear to stop but I hope our generation will not get carried away by such inflexible gossip mongers’ comments on our children. I hope we will give them the time to make this big and right decision of their lives.


Well, my HOD got married to a software engineer early this year (Ofcourse through window shopping process only). They make an awesome couple. Touchwood!!!!! 😀


And my window shopping is currently an ongoing process. But I have hopes. I know that…My prince charming is out somewhere…Destiny is yet to unite us…They say there is a right time for everything…So, I am waiting for that Right Time…For that Mr. Right …And for that Right Window Shopping! 😉



                                                                                                                                 …Ashu Bolar 🙂


9 responses »

  1. Dear Ashu,

    First of all amazing artical, which makes you laugh but has lots of meanings.
    thsi article makes people…society (good word) to understand that girls are not burden. Even they have their own lives to live and to choose what they love.
    Family should think of their daughter and not of society’s remarks. As one of the great person said – “When you laugh people laugh with you but when you cry they laugh louder.”
    One should keep this in mind when taking marital decisions for your daughters that when your daughter gets married and if she is happy then the society will be happy. But if she happens to be in pain no one will come to help her. The only people who will come for her rescue will be her parents…her family.
    So Ashu, sorry for such a lengthy comment but these are the true words that came to my mind after reading your article which will hopefully be on your comment board.

    Best of luck!

    Give more articles like this which help society. Waiting for more laughs and more such articles…


  2. Hi Dear

    We dont know each other but came to know about ur article from a friend.

    One of the most intresting articles I have come to know.
    You have given a totally different meaning to window shopping.

    The biggest irony is that it is really a fact that in this 21st century we believe in such dekhna-dekhana system.

    Keep writing the article was heart touching.

    Take care

  3. Dear Asma,

    First of all, well done, the article is extremely commendable.

    It’s not serious and yet makes you think, that is the best part about it.

    The fact that you mentioned the arrange marriage part subtly, highlights the entire article.

    Also, I loved the name of your article. Extremely thoughtful and smart.

    Well done!


  4. Hey Asma,
    This is one of your first article I’ve read. I liked it.
    People really need to change their mindsets, this hapepns even among the well educated families.
    Also i liked the title of Window Shopping…All the very best. Looking forward for more articles.

  5. Dear Asma,

    Read your article for the first time, didint know u were such an awesome writer… Hats off to you dear….
    U have oodles of talent dont waste ur time and energy on being windowshopped by some one who doesnt deserve it..
    Rather spend time with friends who will take you out for genuine window shopping.
    Thats a better utilisation of time, energy and u never know we may meet our prince charming out there… who would be busy shopping for his mom or sis… 🙂 (High Hopes)
    This article seems to be so close to many hearts and has stirred many of them as well.. so keep loading up the good work… U have a long way to go…
    Loads of Love

  6. Lol…I repeat, thats the most awesome “tag” that I have come across for this funny system 🙂
    Ur grey cells are ticking 🙂 and they make me tickle 😀
    Keep writing 🙂

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